Should I end my relationship with my mom?

She is a very difficult person to get along with. She likes drama, to always be right, to know everything, to correct me even when I am right anyway and she enjoys embarrassing me. She was very verbally and emotional abusive to me. She stop buying me clothes when I was 10 except for 1 pair of shoes, 1 bag of panties and 1 bag of socks a year, but that was it. The ladies at church felt so bad for me because my mom didn't buy me bras that the took a collection for me ( i am top heavy) My mom has also thrown cooking rice at my head, moved a man into the house that she knew less than a month, would make me walk over 5 miles home from working late at night because she didn't feel like driving, tried to get me to have a baby for her when I was 15 because her tubes were tied. I paid for all my field trips except one myself. She would steal money from my room. She stole my entire paycheck, my tax return check, money in my piggy bank, money I hid from her, money my grandma gave me for my birthday. She prevented me from going to college. I applied to colleges paid the application fee myself. I picked the school I wanted to go to when my letters came back. I was sent all my forms and financial aid packet that my mom had to fill out. I paid my room security fee myself. My mother waited until it was passed the deadline for my fin aid packet to tell me she did not fill it out. Her reasons would change daily but the reason she gave at the time was I was not mentally able to deal with being away from her and Cali was way too far for me to go( lived in Pa). And I needed her to make my decisions for me because I could not do that for myself. My mother was a hands off mom, never helped me with homework, I had to go too her and if I didn't get it right away I was stupid and retarded. I would go in my room and cry myself to sleep hating God for making me so stupid. I rarely went to the dentist and once when she took me. I was 15 and was told I needed braces (Ray Charles could have seen that, my teeth were jacked up) With her insurance it would have cost 500. She went shopping with the money and told me if I wanted braces I could get them myself( I did when I was 23 minus dental insurance) I have worst stories than those. But, recently my mom called me asking me when was I going to give her my paycheck. I was like, what?! Then she makes up some story about me saying I would give her my entire paycheck. I get paid once every 2 weeks and had just sent her 200 to help with her bills. That she spent on BS. At this point I am ready to end my relationship with her. She is a complete user and only cares about money. She wrote me an email saying that's she is mad at me for not making her rich and she is mad at her grandfather for not making the family rich, so she can live like Paris Hilton. Every time I ask her for money she does not have any. My baby brother is in college and my mother has given him no money towards school. I pay it. She has watched me struggle financially for years and will try and guilt me into giving her money. She has opened a credit card in my name, a cell phone and tried to open a Target credit card in my brothers name. I have a lot of resentment and bitterness towards her. We never felt love from this woman and I am ready to be done with her.
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This woman is no mother she is a Leech, My father is simular on the money notion always making me feel bad for loving a dissabled man, it wasn't his fault he got runned over by a cement truck amd I love the man because of his perseveriance and loyalty to me. As for the teeth thing I am so right there with you I am 27 years old and was just told I have to get dentures. My folks split when I was 6 and I stayed with my father who is a Military captain who spent all hours working and then when he got home he got all dolled up and went to the bar almost every night and we always spent our time together eating dinner in our seperat rooms and no one ever taught me the importance of hygiene. I was forced to be a tom boy cause my father never let me pick out close for a girl unless I begged profussly. I have to laugh at the top heavy thing though cause my gym teach litterally chewed my father a new one when all the boys couldn't consentrait cause i never owned my 1st bra till 14 (now i am a 36 DD if you catch my drift there) I myself am wrestling with the idea of sueing my father for the dentures but he is stepping up to help but he wants me to go to Mexico for the fixing and not get dentures, but thats my own question for later Your mother seems like mine when I turned 18 I finnally moved in with my mom and she has treatened to kill me, she always has to point out my PERSONAL defects in public. I was just about to disown both of them for differant reasons at 23 but discovered the power of words is infinet, I wrote each a very long and drawn out letter (via e-mail) explaining everthing they did wrong and how it made me feel and told them if they didn't back off and shape up they would never see their grand son (who is now 6month) WE had all been told by my doctors that I would never have kids cause I have cancer. Grandchildren to parents is gold, if you were to tell your mother that what she has done to you is unforgivable but that she is your mother and you want to go by the 10 commandments and be able to honor her and not feel like running in horror when you see or hear her. But for you to honor her she has to shape up a bit and back off the $$ you earned it not her and if she wants money have her come over and clean your house or room or car. make her work for it and she will appreciate it alot better. Tell her if she can't love you for you and not the cash you make then you will have to go your seperate ways and when you deside to have children that you fear if she can't change you will not allow her to be apart of it. one thing I realized about mothers guilt trips, you are of her and you can throw a guilt trip just as good I can tell look what you wrote above its your turn to find that even the things you don't like about your mother lie somewhere inside you USE them she understands them I hope this helps feel free to e-mail me if youd like any tips on this I REALLY HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT.
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Entodontist wants to do hot water test to know which tooth is troubling me & then decide if my tooth # 30?

or 31 needs refilling or root canal. How will I know which one is required ? I just have pain on& off near those teeth. Biting does not hurt. X ray only shows little darker near the tooth. This is what I was told. I feel root canal is not necessary. Existing filling is old like 15 + years. I don't have dental insurance . Please answer. What question do I need to ask dental doctor? Thanks so much.
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root canal is done only when your nerve is exposed to the mouth. It will cause you sever pain due to any thermal change, cold or hot. If you do not have pain due to cold or hot, you just need a filling.
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What are my rights as a patient? Do I have to go back to pick up the partial?

A tooth on my existing partial broke off and I had asked my dentist to make me a new one. I stated that I again, wanted a Valplast partial. He took the imprint and sent it out. It came back a week or so ago and I went to the office to pick it up. It wasn't what I had expected. The teeth were small and discolored and it was set on a metal plate. I thought it was me so I had tried to live with it but the discomfort became unbearable. I developed sores on the inside of my mouth and the teeth looked awful. I tried to like them but friends and coworkers looked at me and their look spoke a thousand words- it looked awful. I called the office and went back. The dentist who was once so very kind was furious as I sat in the chair crying trying to explain why I didn't like the partial. I showed him the sores on the inside of my mouth and he stormed out of the room. He caused a big scene and fellow patients came to have a look. He kept saying he wanted to retire. I did nothing. I just said there, I couldn't believe this was happening. I wasn't hysterical when I came in so don't get the wrong impression. I cried in pain. I'm a Psychiatric Tech. and I know how to handle myself-- which I could say the same for others. He told me "Oh great! Now I have to pay for this!" He tried to force it into my mouth. He tried to force me into keeping it as a supposed "spare" but I said no. His dental hygienist was kind. She agreed the partial did not look right and said I had every right to voice my opinion. Another came in and tried to cheer me up. I left. He did the impression and I now I am waiting on my new partial... I am really very fearful of going back. I don't want to be subjected to his abuse. He already charged my dental insurance company and I will be making a payment arrangement to pay off the remainder. Can I request that I pick up the teeth without seeing him? What do I do?
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This dentist violated every rule of conduct, professionalism, and HIPPA privacy laws. I would first call the insurance company and initiate a grievance complaint. Tell them that the partial was not what you wanted and did not fit properly and look satisfactory. Tell them your story and they should not pay the dentists claim. Do not go back to pick up the bad denture. Then find a new dentist to construct you a proper appliance. If the old dentist makes waves in any way file a grievance with the state dental society and threaten legal action to the dental office. He sounds like he needs some psycho analysis. Good luck
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Will the army fix my teeth?

I have signed my enlistment contract but i heard the army does a dental check up. Unfortunately i know i have gingivitis from not taking care of my teeth at a young age and not having any dental insurance to get it taken care of. What will they do. I heard they might replace my teeth? How do they do that-- implants or dentures? I have the receding gums and everything. And do they talk to you alone or infront of other future soldiers? I just don't want to feel embarassed. I hate the dentist I used to goto- he was so mean.
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Yes. If it's still the same as it was when I joined the Navy 40 years ago you will be given an exam and categorized 1, 2 or 3. (1 = good condition, 2 = fair, and 3 = major work needed). Those who needed extensive work were placed in a special holding unit for dental work. The Navy had excellent dentists and I got very good treatment. They will perform whatever work you need provided you are located near a major military facility. If not, you will be referred to a civilian dentist. Keep in mind, however, that I served a while back and things may have changed. Good luck to you and thank you in advance for serving our country. Chief Petty Officer U.S. Navy, Retired 1968-1990
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Crowned tooth might need root canal- Do I have to pay for a new crown after the root canal?

So I went to this new dentist strictly because they had late hours. Well they put in a temp crown while my permanent crown was being made... and that night (within 4 hours after I left) it fell out when I was just sitting there watching tv. So I went back a few days later. They put another one in. That time less than an hour after I left it fell out. So I was again for a few days without a tooth in the back of my mouth and unable to eat anything hot/cold and barely was able to brush my teeth. Because they messed up so many times my teeth (recently had 4 years of braces removed, too) moved a little and now my teeth are a little messed up on the bottom. So since I had my permanent crown put in I've had tremendous pain each day on that side of my mouth. He took an x-ray, said "Hmmm... I'm not sure why that one tooth is shaded a little darker than the others" and gave a little chuckle and sent me off with ibuprofen. I went back again because there was still pain. He made me buy a $200 mouth guard that falls out because it doesn't fit right. A few weeks later I went back still with the pain (that if I don't take at least 4 ibuprofen I literally cry in pain) and he said he wasn't sure what it was and I should ice it a little. Btw, my mouth on that side is a little swollen, too. Noticeably. And has been this entire time (several months) I am running out of prescription pain pills from my neurologist who felt bad for me, so I called a few dentists to try and get their opinion. Over the phone the lady said it sounds like I need a root canal on the tooth with the crown but I need to first go back to a regular dentist to get a referral (awesome how my current dentist saw me more than 6 times in a month and a lady on the phone knows more about my teeth than he does). I won't have dental insurance next year, so I need to do all of this work done preferably this year. My question is this- since it was his fault for not checking my tooth before putting the permanent crown on, does he pay for a new crown to put over the tooth again after the root canal? Or do I get the root canal, and I have to pay another $400 (if my insurance covers as much as last time, which I doubt it, so more like $800) for a new crown and go through all that pain again? Or if I get a root canal on the tooth with the crown, does it have nothing to do with the crown I have in now? Any advice on this topic helpful. Thanks.
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As a dentist I am not going to get into the charges you are asking about. All I would suggest is to find another dentist who is better at diagnosing and doing treatment.
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TMD/TMJ, help with pain?

I've suffered unbearably for years with what I thought was sinus problem nobody could fix. Recently learned it's all from TMD; I clench my jaw without realizing it. I've changed almost every aspect of my life recently, (what I eat, sleeping position, got a wedge pillow, etc.) and I'm still in terrible (albeit less, I admit) pain. I know that a nightguard can help me at night if I get one, but I'd like to know... Is there anything I can do or use during THE DAY, when I'm awake, to prevent myself from clenching my jaw? 1) I clench without realizing it. 2) I fear that perhaps I "over-correct" when I try consciously to avoid clenching; I have no idea how wide the normal "rest" position of the TMJ joint is. I need to have something that keeps it both from being clenched and also from being opened too wide. BTW, my dental insurance is pretty decent, but I can still expect to pay 20-50% of my dental cost (depending on procedure). Even that percentage may prove beyond my budget.
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WHAT YOU NEED IS A BRUXISM APPLIANCE TO STOP THE CLENCHING AT NIGHT WITH THE PAIN BEHIND IT. AN N.T.I. BRUXISM APPLIANCE WILL DO THIS. SEE THE LINKS BELOW. ONLY YOUR DENTIST CAN MAKE YOU THIS.
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Who Is Willing To Help Me?

I need a dentist who's willing to work with me. I've had upper and lower dentures since I was 38 years old. I'm 43 now with a 15 yr. old son. I'm so self-conscious it's handicapping. I'm not being over dramatic. I have people stop dead in their tracks and stare at my mouth when I talk because it's so different and ugly. No matter what anyone says I can't accept wearing dentures for the rest of my life. My son is involved in so many activities at school and most of the time I don't go. If I do I don't talk because my speech is so affected. I hate dentures. Please Help me get implants. i can pay monthly. Please Help me get my happy life back. I know there's got to be at least 1 human being left in this world who has a heart and understand and is willing to help me. I have dental insurance but dental implants is not covered. Please, Please Help Me!
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Post this in the health section if you're looking for dentists, and post this on the psychology forum as well just in case someone can help you with your lack of self esteem.
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Rental $ question, please answer?

My husband and I own a home together and he pays for the mortgage while I pay the utilities/water/internet, cable, and phone. Hub makes about $40k+ more than me and we have separate bank accounts since he doesn't want to have one with me though I've asked him to do this before. Anyway, he recently moved his family in and is renting out a portion of our home to them. They are giving him $1,000 to cover rent, utilities, water, cable, phone, and internet. Understandably, our utility and water bill has gone up since he and I work all day and his relative's wife stays home all day with their son (we are a childless couple). So I asked him to give me $ from the $1,000 he is charging them since the bills have increased significantly and he says no, that the bills haven't increased all that much and that he needs the money for the mortgage. I feel this is totally unfair. Is taht right or am I overreacting? I don't make nearly as much as him and pay my own student loans, car, maintenance, gym fees, insurance, and he's on my dental insurance. He does pay for me when we go out to dinner always and outings to the movies and sometimes a vacation but the last 2 vacations I paid on my own. Advice?
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He is ripping you off. His family is paying him $1,000 and his costs have not even gone up (the mortgage is the same amount) but yours certainly have. They are using water, electricity, watching TV, using the phone, etc. which is out of your budget.
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What are my rights as a patient? Do I have to go back?

A tooth on my existing partial broke off and I had asked my dentist to make me a new one. I stated that I again, wanted a Valplast partial. He took the imprint and sent it out. It came back a week or so ago and I went to the office to pick it up. It wasn't what I had expected. The teeth were small and discolored and it was set on a metal plate. I thought it was me so I had tried to live with it but the discomfort became unbearable. I developed sores on the inside of my mouth and the teeth looked awful. I tried to like them but friends and coworkers looked at me and their look spoke a thousand words- it looked awful. I called the office and went back. The dentist who was once so very kind was furious as I sat in the chair crying trying to explain why I didn't like the partial. I showed him the sores on the inside of my mouth and he stormed out of the room. He caused a big scene and fellow patients came to have a look. He kept saying he wanted to retire. I did nothing. I just said there, I couldn't believe this was happening. I wasn't hysterical when I came in so don't get the wrong impression. I cried in pain. I'm a Psychiatric Tech. and I know how to handle myself-- which I could say the same for others. He told me "Oh great! Now I have to pay for this!" He tried to force it into my mouth. He tried to force me into keeping it as a supposed "spare" but I said no. His dental hygienist was kind. She agreed the partial did not look right and said I had every right to voice my opinion. Another came in and tried to cheer me up. I left. He did the impression and I now I am waiting on my new partial... I am really very fearful of going back. I don't want to be subjected to his abuse. He already charged my dental insurance company and I will be making a payment arrangement to pay off the remainder. Can I request that I pick up the teeth without seeing him? What do I do?
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Sure, why not, I was a dental tech who made partials and he is obviously a frustrated man. Did you know the suicide rate among doctors is highest for dentists? He needs mental help. The hygienist can make sure the new one's ok. Drop the doctor a note an tell him not to pay his lab for the bad ne. He shouldn't have to. But, he is the one who wrote the order and must've forgotten details, maybe not. At any rate, it's not your responsibility. Stick to your guns.
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Sensitive teeth treatment, Dentalm from Prodacta Essentials - dentist recommended, anyone tried it?

My random toothache was driving me crazy and one expensive dental visit later, the dentist recommended I try Dentalm toothbrush for sensitive teeth. He says it is the only treatment that has been proven effective so far. I am wondering if anyone has tried it? I checked and I can buy it from Prodacta Essentials http://prodactaessentials.com and save me a lot of money (no need to go dentist - I don't have dental insurance). I know I should trust my dentist and just buy it but I am just curious if anyone else has tried it and what are your thoughts?
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Yes I've tried it myself, bought Dentalm from Prodacta Essentials. Also dentist recommended, seems like trade secret or something? ;) I've been using it every night for about 1 month... And I definitely find it effective. Actually, I don't even get sharp pain when I eat or drink cold water for that matter. My teeth are also whiter, i can see the improvement. I would suggest you go ahead and give it a try. Like you said, save money on dentist, esp if it is just teeth sensitivity. The company selling it is very helpful with information and service is good. got mine delievered within the week.
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What are the sudden bumps I have in my inner gums?

Quite suddenly I have these hard bumps in my lower inner gums. They're not painful, yet. I think it may be teeth growing out from within the gums, but they're behind those pointy teeth towards the front, not back at the molars, so I dont think they're wisdoms. Though my top wisdoms did grow out a long time ago but my bottom ones never did. I am 38 and have never had dental health problems. Wouldnt it be unusual for teeth to be growing out at this age? What are the possibilities here? Obviously I'll go see a dentist but I want to have an idea. Also I have no dental insurance and wonder if anyone knows of any help I could get in that regard? Thank you.
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They will be mandibular tori - harmless bony growths often found on the inner surface of lower front jaw, mid-palate, and outer surfaces of upper and lower jaws near the molars. They require no treatment unless you are having a denture made that would interfere with them. I'm going to have my lower jaw outer ones removed soon because I bump and scratch them when eating. Just annoying.
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Afraid of boyfriend/husband leaving me if I loose teeth?

I have kept a secret from my boyfriend for a long time-that I have some problem teeth that I may loose in the future. I've held onto them for a long time but they are very weak from root canals and could crack and break off any day. I've also had a severe teeth grinding problem in which the enamel is worn off my molars making my molars very short. My boyfriend wants to marry me. Should I mention to him my problems about my teeth before marriage to make sure it is something he can handle/cope with if I loose teeth or should I assume that if he loves me he wouldn't divorce me if I lost teeth during our marriage? Tooth loss could interfere with my ability to eat/nutrition for the baby if I am pregnant. I could replace them with dental implants but don't think I could afford them right now as dental insurance doesn't cover implants. Afraid my boyfriend won't find me attractive anymore with missing teeth and will leave me. This anxiety about tooth loss and my boyfriend/husband leaving me because of it is causing me to feel depressed. I am fairly young (31 years old) and wish I didn't have to worry about a man leaving me because of tooth loss.
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Marriage is for better or worse. If you plan on being married for along period of time, you stand to lose more physically than just teeth. If you or your fiance can not cope with this idea than maybe you should re consider marriage.
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Can't afford a filling, what should I do?

My dental insurance now only covers cleanings and x-rays. I have a large cavity in my molar. It's been hurting for a few weeks now, mostly at night. The latest development is a different kind of pain. Now in addition to the deep ache that keeps me up at night, whenever I eat it feels like I'm chewing tinfoil (even though I keep all food away from that side.) When I spit after brushing my teeth, I get the same feeling. I don't have any income right now and insurance won't cover the filling. I refuse to get an extraction, I'd rather die. Is there any other option?
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Ideally talk to your dentist. You may be able to work something out with him. If you can't then get some temporary filling stuff from the chemist. Put it in the cavity according to the instructions. Then, as soon as you can get it dealt with at the dentist properly. Keep the area really clean as well.
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Do I need jaw realignment?

In the past two years, I have removed 3 of my 4 wisdom teeth. I never thought I needed to removed them, because they were growing in straight and were not affecting anything else, but I removed them anyway. Now, I still have one wisdom tooth left but my jaw feels unaligned. My back molars no longer meet like they used to, and when I wake up every morning my jaw aches, sometimes all day, and sometimes results in headaches. For example, if I set my jaw down in a position that only one side of my molars meet then I am unable to open my jaw all the way, but if I realign it to set down on the opposite side, I can move it freely. The issue is that I'm a student about to graduate college with only the military Tricare Standard insurance for dependents, which does not cover dental insurance. So I need to know if I need any procedure done, or just a simple night guard to help the sleep discomfort.
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you should visit the dentist if he thinks that your teeth are not meeting properly and they need adjustment, he will do that or he will give you the night guard. it looks like from your symptoms that you are having the problem of bruxism. for more information on bruxism you can visit the following link http://www.identalhub.com/ArticleSubCate…
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Will I make it living in Brooklyn, NY?

Here are my expected monthly expenditures, making $48000 a year, after taxes: rent-$1700 metrocard-$90 food-$600 toiletries-$50 bills(gas bill, cable tv, cell phone, high-speed intenet)-$300 miscellaneous (for things like going to the movies or getting my nails done)-$200 renter's insurance-$40 helath/dental insurance-$150 soooo.. am I being realistic or not? I am single, don't have any kids, and will not have a car.
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You'll be fine. Go and have a good life!
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Do cavities cause bad breath?

I have two cavities that got worse and as a result, I had to get a root canal done for both teeth. But I notice a bad odor coming from those two particular teeth. How do I stop this? What's the best remedy? I know I need to go visit the dentist, but I have no money or health/dental insurance. I want permanent results, not temporary masks. I know I have halitosis because whenever I talk to people, they back away from me. It's really embarassing. I don't mean to offend anyone. This is why I feel insecure talking face to face with people. Yes, I do floss and brush at least twice a day. No matter what I do, it doesn't go away. I want to be confident talking to others. One dentist told me I have the early signs of periodonal disease, so can that be it too? Damn it, I don't understand how I have so much dental problems when I take care of my teeth very well. Yes, I have a sweet tooth and I ate a lot of junk food in the past, but I always brush my teeth afterward. WTH?
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Try rinsing your mouth with peroxide and eat mints. That is all you can do in your situation unless you go to a dentist where they can open your gums and drain the pus out or drill the rotten part out of your teeth and recap them getting rid of the odors. THey seem infected. I don't know what state you live in, but most places have low cost or free dentists. Like Mercy College in Mi. Call around to colleges in your area. They may have dental colleges with students willing to clean and repair your teeth for almost free or a grade for them. I had my teeth done for free by a student and he did ok. Call around now.
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