does anyone have any knowledge about amending a divorce decree?

I have been divorce for 5 years, at the time of the divorce i carried all health insurance for children and ex,although i never covered dental it was also listed in the the divorce agreement. My ex husband carries full coverage for their dental and the dental insurance will not pay because the have the divorce decree and they say they have to go by what it says! Even though my husband argues that he pays for it and he always has covered it. They said the only way the will pay is if we get the decree amended. Do we actually have to file, wait for a date, both take a day off from work, charge the state for the judges time, just so he can sign a piece of paper saying we agree? Is there any way it can be done by computer, phone, or as least download a form and get it started by mail??? Please, any legal help out there
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Most states will take either a Rule 11 or other format written agreement between the parties. You can go online to your state's website and fill out the form or call your local courthouse. Both of you need to sign in front of a notary and then pay the filing fee with the court. You will be assigned a court date, in writing. One of you must attend. After that, the judge will approve and you will need to get formalized copies from the courthouse for a small fee. All in, it's a few hundred dollars and a couple of hours of your time. You can also hire an attorney to do the paperwork for you but it will cost more. If you provide your state, one of us could probably post the appropriate link.
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